Several of my friends were recently grappling with the question of how to ask their girlfriends or best guy friends to be part of their wedding day squad. And also – who to ask! Asking your favourite people to be your bridesmaids [#BrideTribe] is such a fun and important part of your wedding journey! It can also S-C-A-R-Y with a capital S because one of the first things is figuring out who you want to ask!
Things to Think About
- Who can you not picture your day without by your side?
- Even though it can be overwhelming to only have a few friends or family in the wedding party, it can become an intimate experience that you’ll all enjoy. There are also a lot of other roles your cherished friends and family can take on. They can still be entirely included in the big celebration!
- Would everyone who you want to ask get along with one another? How do they fit in with the vibes you want to have at your wedding? Are you a close knit group of friends that love to chill or are you a P-A-R-T-Y crowd who’s hips don’t lie? 💃🕺 Maybe your sister-in-law very shy and won’t love the planned activities. Are exe’s in each side of the wedding party? Try to pick the road with the least amount of drama so the day can remain a celebration of the two of you.
- Honouring your friends/fam by asking them to be in your #BrideTribe is a wonderful tradition. They’ll be excited to support the happy couple in the discussed commitments! Keep in mind that asking your bosom buddies means asking them to commit their time, energy and money. Keep the conversation open about what you’re wanting to do. And what you’re okay skipping! For example, my idea of a GREAT time with my group would be go to the spa and relax the weeks before the big day 💆♀️ & go on a hike with a beautiful view ⛰️🌅. There’s bound to be times when you’ll call them for help, and other times you give them your opinion. At the end of it, just remember to stay calm, focus on the awesome upcoming things, and have tons of fun!
Changes in Your #BrideTribe
Sometimes changes might need to happen, and that’s okay. You’ll want to surround yourself with people that will boost you up and create a positive vibe for your wedding celebrations! If things aren’t working out, don’t hesitate to make the changes – you want the people who will support you all the way!
Yay, Gifts!
Now the super fun part! To thank your #BrideTribe for all their emotional support and friendship, there are an unlimited type of thing you could gift them. I like to suggest things that will be useful for your friend or fam and also remind them of the awesome times after 🙂 For example, my one friend is an avid traveler for herself + work and she brought us back Dead Sea salt hand cream from Jordan — I use it a couple times a week right now and smile every time! Boxes of different fun things could be a good way to incorporate personal touches.
It’s so much fun putting these gifts together and thinking about what your friends would like + cherish forever.
How did you ask your wedding party to be a part of your special day? Let me know below!
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